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“I Got The Clingies!”
Ok, I’m 38yrs old and have started talking to a much younger woman. We have established the fact the yes we are attracted to and like each other, but we agree that now is not the time for a serious relationship. She’s 4 mos out a relationship with another older guy, and I’m just getting back into dating again.. Problem is, IM CLINGY! We had a bit of a sour moment on Thursday, but we talked and I apologized. I said I’m going to fall back a bit and only texted her Sunday to say hi. She was cool and all.. I guess my question is how to stop being clingy and will I have a chance to redeem myself. Now she did say that she likes me and likes to be with me, bug the clingy was turns her off.. Is there any hope or am I panicking?? Help me out!!! LOL
My Reply: Well first off, I will say that it’s somewhat normal for men to be clingy even though we hate to admit it. Especially if you’re the type to love hard when you do find love so don’t feel bad about it but you have to manage it. This is one of those situations where practice makes perfect. For clingy people, dating only one person at a time isn’t wise. Since you’re used to an accute focus of your energy anyway, the last thing you need is one person at a time to give it to. You have to start dating other women and fast. If she’s not returning the “clingy-ness” then it’s all but attractive and there’s little to no hope it’s going to change. She may like you but come to the conclusion she doesn’t see herself with you, however your clingy ways will make it hard for her to tell you the truth. This is when you’ll get strung along for a long ride that only ends in a crash all because “She tried to tell you but just couldn’t because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings”. Fake it til you make it man, it works. Text her every few days. If she doesn’t text you first AT ALL…then it’s time to let it go. But DO explore other options. It’ll help ration out your attention and give you a better idea of how she compares to what you’re looking for. When you do this, there’ll eventually be a standout amongst the women you’re getting to know and that’s when you can unleash all the “clingy” to the woman who deserves it.