Curiosity killed the cat, but more often it just ends up bursting our bubble. We have a habit of asking questions we really don’t want the answer to, like “Am I the best you ever had” or better yet, “So how many partners have you had before me?” But does it really even matter? I say yes it does, but particularly for women.
Double standard you say?
Why it’s ok for men to sleep around but if a woman does she’s a hoe? First off, it’s not ok but aside from the titles, I believe there’s a thin line between a double standard and structure. Roles that have been consistent since men were expected to be the providers and women the nurturers. In addition, women have always been expected to have more discretion with their bodies than men. You can drive through any neighborhood and find a group of shirtless dudes playing basketball, but if that same court was full of women doing the same thing you’d probably wreck your car; or find a very close parking spot(since we’re being real). If a woman feels threatened by another woman, she can use violence to protect herself, but a man who does the same is a bus driver…I mean a woman beater. Now why is that considered “Just the way it should be” but a higher standard for women’s discretion of their bodies a double standard? In 2013, people are challenging these roles all in the name of Only God Can Judge Me.
So we have little boys exploring other boys as freely as they would little girls for their first crushes, molly and birth control popping is the daily diet for teens, and we even almost had Mitt Romney as a president. I may be old fashioned, but I’d rather not try on panties to make a stance for my right to choose where my place in society could be. Basically, just because it’s not written in black and white ink doesn’t mean you should erase it and write whatever comes to mind. So yes I do feel that women should be a bit more guarded with their bodies regardless if men doing the exact opposite is tolerable or not. If that’s a double standard then so is chivalry. Men are just “supposed” to open the door, pull out chairs, and pay the tab for dates. Let’s not do away with one double standard and stop at that. Just be prepared for a world that says “anything goes” which is exactly where we’re headed in case you’ve been under a rock.
So how does a woman’s body count matter?
While it doesn’t dictate her current mindset nor future wife potential, it does matter in relation to what lessons were learned and how it affects her behavior today. If she had no regard for her body as a young woman and her mindset hasn’t changed any then you can proceed with your slander. Some guys feel like they have a winner because their girl is a virgin but every girl on Maury was once a virgin. Means nothing. A woman shouldn’t have to lie or feel ashamed about where she’s come from and defending it shouldn’t be necessary either. You should have enough sense to consider the context in the way it relates to her now. The only thing we can do with our past is learn from it, so if you judge anything, judge that. Not what was, but what became of it.