I got an email not too long ago from a woman having some issues keeping a man, and I couldn’t believe her reasoning as to why she was having such a hard time. Apparently there’s not many men who are “man enough” to step up to her plate…which was loaded with a bunch of BS she felt should come with the package of “not being perfect”. According to various Twitter rants and casual conversations I’ve overheard, a lot of women seem to share her sentiments, so this message is to her and every woman alike. If you’ve ever said, “It takes a real man to be able to handle me”, I probably(as in definitely) am talking to you….
Why do you feel an entitlement to a man’s perserverance to keep you while all you do is put it to the test? In other words…you’ve got some nerve. A real man is hard enough to find as it is, don’t think that the world owes you one. Ask around, being lonely long-term is more than a myth.
It’s way too much TV watching going on if perfectly sane women are really expecting every brother to come whisk them off their feet as they kick one leg in the air. The ones who are ready and willing to do just that also come with high standards and can spot trouble a mile away. But hypothetically speaking, let’s say a real man does come your way. He’s probably working hard to keep his bills paid on time and credit score high. After a long day of doing that, you figure the best way to strengthen the relationship and repay him is to give him more stress: Being stubborn, asking a million questions at all the wrong times, acting suspicious of every move, claiming you’re tired when he says he’s hungry. Like that’s your role. Like you got it like that. Like there ain’t already a good number of single good women and an unlimited supply of misguided women like you just waiting for a chance….
What man wants a woman that he has to “handle” anyway. You’re grown, or at least try to pretend. You’re going around telling everyone how you was “too much” for your last man, but you’re the first to start talking slick when you see him with a white girl. It’s not about race so let’s not even go there, but you seem real quick to point a finger at everyone and everything but the mirror. “Nobody’s Perfect”, “My Good Outweighs My Bad”, “Men Are Intimidated By a Strong Woman”, yeah I’ve heard it all. Truth remains, real men like to be appreciated and taken care of and if they’re not getting it with one, they’ll go looking for another just like clock work. You don’t know what you got til it’s gone and better off without you. Everyone has potential, but right now you have some issues to work through and it starts with this reality check. It doesn’t take a real man to handle you, it takes a fool.