A lot of times when someone looks to define love, they’ll begin by differentiating between love and lust because we all know what lust is. However we can not define Love by what it isn’t. That’s like trying to measure how heavy I am by describing how much I don’t weigh. Typically people will point to the bible, and that’s cool. But hypothetically, let’s say it’s possible to not be a “Christian” but still be capable or deserving of love…then what? Well through my own experiences and through observation of others, I’ve written my own definition that’s not only universal and equal opportunity no matter what religion, but also plausible enough that some have even accepted it as their own. Here it is…
Love as a non-platonic adjective is the extremity of the bond(commonly referred to as relationship) that 2 people or entities share. It’s a level of necessity in one’s life that starts at 0 and has infinite growing potential.(Yes that is original. Steal it and I’m suing!)
Now let me break that down a bit because already I can hear you scratching your head. People always say things like, it was “Love at first sight” which couldn’t be further from the truth. In that context, love is something you stumble upon and pick up like a seashell. In the definition I gave, love is something you grow and nurture that becomes stronger with time and energy invested. What some people mistake for “love at first sight” is often a lust for love, at first sight. The thought of finally meeting that person who fits your image of the one you could love is what you were lusting for which could very well evolve into love with time. But if you met that person and the next day heard they got in a car wreck and died, you would forget about them in a week. On the contrary, if you spent 20 years investing time and energy into loving that person, their death would leave you feeling sick, lost, and mourning possibly for the rest of your life. That’s why we grow to love people without even knowing it and sometimes against our own will. Now who’s to quantify at what extremity does ‘love’ officially exist? That can only be measured by the love that already exists in your life among friends or family and at what point you’ll dignify the degree at which you want a person to be in your life to be deemed “Love”. You can call it what you want, but your heart will have the final say.